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Tianjin, a lawyer in a divorce case recently took over the find, with sixty percent "after 80" young couple's divorce case, which, as much because of several couples have divorced parents, the intervention of the road. Marriage experts called: "relatives by marriage and not" lead to the phenomenon of divorce is not a small case, I hope parents looking for children's well-being "let go."

Jing Jing was married just a year "after 80", few days ago because of household and wife had an argument, then angrily back to her parents. Jing Jing mother saw her daughter crying back home, apart from anything else, picked up phone to reprove the meal took son: "You had a lifetime love my daughter said, just how they change marriage? How you can not let her ? "son would like to explain, but the wife's mother simply does not listen, is to let son admit to his daughter. And Jing Jing's wife Xiaowei is "80" after, at home, also an only child, Xiaowei parents know about it after, and very angry. I thought: "Your daughter is precious, there is the son of my house is not it?" So, Xiaowei's mother gave relatives by marriage telephoned, to get justice for his son. The mother refuses to accept soft Beijing Beijing for fear of their own a soft, her daughter would be bullied in the future. A result, two relatives by marriage getting more and more to gas. Originally, this matter after the young couple very sorry, also wanted to have a good meaning. However, I and my parents said that their parents do not consent, for fear of yourselves in your clothes soft, and the future has no place at home, and we must give a non-come. The results, over time, who do not compromise the feeling of small husband and wife because the involvement of parents in crisis.

Jing Jing and Xiaowei happened, the "80" after the marriage is common. As long as the young couple a quarrel, the parents will be there, but once handled properly, a small husband and wife's feelings will be a crisis, and even divorce. I was a typical "after 50", below knee has "80" after the children, and when I encounter such things, but do not rush to intervene, because I recall that when our parents is how to deal with children's emotional problems . At that time, I married soon and love conflicts occurred, back to her parents. I thought that would get the support of parents. Unexpectedly, the father said: "If you are normally back to her parents, live how long do. But now you have a conflict occurs, back to her parents live, I will not have. You have to go back." Moreover, my father sent me personally back. To home, with a look at elderly people are also being criticized her husband. Both sides to say their children a right to meet. Result, we quickly and better. After we re-problems will not find their parents, but rather themselves. Because we know that their parents are not "to" with their own.

When the young couple met after the conflict, why the parents of different ages in different ways to solve it? One of the most important reason is that "80" after the children and "50 after" the hearts of parents in their different status of the parents, as parents give their children the love is different. Then the parents to "50 after" children love is conditional, not excessive. And "50 after" parents gave their children love it too much, and sometimes even blindly. So some "80" after the kids even do laundry. Of course, let alone to solve their own conflicts between a husband and wife. "80" after everything the parents love their children, "blending," to love is no exception, but not the commitment to, blind intervention can only make things more complicated, and harmful to the child's well-being.

Marriage counselors, "80" after more than one child, individuality, less tolerant of Gerry ingredients for life after marriage, the two often trivial dispute, refused to give in easily. If you always tend to their own parents and children, but will intensify into big small mouth contradictions, leading to children of divorce. Therefore, parents must learn to "let go."

Lu Weiping