Parents are the best marriage counselor, but should not be decision-makers -
Parents of small children's emotional problems involved
"As parents, the children's emotional problems, should stand in the position?" Over the years, this is a debated topic. But I personally think that the feelings of parents and children may be the best consultants and even marriage, but not the decision-makers, for children's emotional problems, or as little intervention as well.
In some parents, that he is over who experience love and marriage for their children, "the decisions" is to allow children to avoid detours. These parents may have some idea of truth, however, the problem is very complex and emotional spirit of activity, two things were clear only their own parents aware of the problem may just be part of the rush to intervene can only make things more chaotic. For example, some of the feelings of parents and children on the intervention of a problem, express their views and opinions, and even doing right or wrong regardless of their children has been firmly supported. Their spoken language is: "She followed us, we are not willing to say, how can you do to him?" As everyone knows, no turning back like this cow Hudu make each other feel frustrated, and people's children is also a father and mother give birth to. Thus, what may originally have become no rational reason the. Parents blind to the original simple intervention can only complicate the issue, or even a crisis, the young couple's marriage a corner.
Parents, application of rational and objective attitude towards their children's emotional problems. When their children have a dispute, to an objective analysis of treatment, or even the use of skills, even if the fault is not their own children, but also start to start criticizing their children in order to better resolve conflicts. Experience can not reconcile the contradictions, they are clearly aware of their children's marriages are not likely to remain, in the case of no protection, only recommendations, not too much interference, respect for the views of both sides. After the disintegration of marriage, still be able to objectively look at their children in marriage is at fault, not arrogant nor vertical. Any time, there is a kind of style the elderly, to treat his former son-and daughter, to treat each other with a calm attitude.
The performance of the parents anyway, their attitude to a large extent influence the attitude of the children of the marriage. Encountered too enthusiastic and unprincipled parents, children, hard passes on the day of quiet happiness, and many children of divorced parents, and even become a major factor.
As parents, get their own place in the children of the marriage, regardless of family harmony for the children, or for treatment after the dispute is critical. Parents and their children, be concerned if not spoiled, advice, non-interference, to the children of a pure sky, children will naturally go to draw the blueprint for life, even if coated with heavy paint, also retain their own characteristics, the parents on behalf of the holding pen, after all not their own lives.
Parents, their children's marriage, what kind of role play? Child marriage is a note of discord? To thin to want to come, what to do. He Feng